A Grief Expert Replies:

Dear Rachael,

Thanks for your note and question.

Before we respond to your question, we want to direct you to an article of ours, posted on Tributes: http://www.tributes.com/grief_recovery_center/article/25

That article addresses the issue of “Time” as it relates to grief. We suggest it to you because your note bears a relationship to when your fiancé died and to your struggles since then.

As to your sense of anger: Based on what you wrote, we're not sure what it is that makes you angry. Was it primarily the fact that he died, or was it the circumstances of his death?

We know that sometimes people get so caught up in the cause of death that they stay angry with how it happened, and never really get to do any kind of recovery about the relationship that the death ended.

While it's normal to feel anger, depending on circumstances and events, anger will not and does not go away by itself.

In order to help the anger go away, you need to take actions of Grief Recovery. Go to the library or book store and get a copy of The Grief Recovery Handbook. Read it and then take the actions it outlines. We are positive it will help you deal with all your feelings, especially all the hopes, dreams, and expectations you had for your future with him. Of course, we cannot bring him back – but we can get you back into your life.

From our hearts to yours,

Russell
And
John